Love Languages: Parent -vs- Child.

Love Languages

Love languages are the ways people show and receive love. When you and your child use different languages, it can be difficult to communicate your feelings. By learning your child’s love language— and helping them learn yours—you will be better able to share positive feelings.

Most people don’t realize that the way they parent and perceive feedback from their child on their parenting skills, can be positive or negative on their parental relationship. It can increase communication and loving interactions, or it can decrease the level of positive interactions while increasing negative interactions just because their love languages are not understood.

Look at the list below and put a (P) for parent love language and put a (C) for the child’s love language. Then compare and process how this may have affected your parental relationship. Make sure to keep in mind the ways you receive and give love to and from your child that may help your relationship or go against it!

Acts of Service

• completing things for others

• caring for children, parents or others

• working to provide for the family, friends or siblings.

• other tasks that benefit the family or relationship

Gifts

• giving a present

• buying flowers, or gifts

• creating something for someone (e.g. artwork)

• other thoughtful surprises

Physical Touch

• holding hands, hugging

• spending personal time together

• cuddling

• other affectionate touching

Quality Time

• sharing a meal

• having a nice conversation

• going on an outing

• being present with others

Words of Affirmation

• stating your feelings (e.g. “I love you”)

• giving encouragement

• giving compliments

• sharing positive thought

Now, look at how you receive love and compare it with your child. Next look at how you give love and compare that with your child. So, with your discovery, I hope that you now have a conversation with one another if improvements are needed to better your parental relationship.